top of page

How to Stop Letting Fear Control Your Decisions and Start Choosing Love Instead

Writer's picture: Brooke SmallBrooke Small

Fear is a powerful force. It’s designed to protect us, alerting us to potential danger. But when we let fear take the wheel in our decision-making, it often keeps us small, isolated, and stuck in patterns that don’t serve our growth.



Fear-based choices can lead to self-sabotage, limiting beliefs, and a life guided by “what-ifs” and “shoulds.” We might stay in relationships that drain us, avoid pursuing our passions, or silence our voices, all in the name of staying “safe.”


But what if we let love guide our choices instead?


When we make decisions from a place of love, we expand. Love invites us to lean into vulnerability, trust our intuition, and embrace our worth. It’s not always the easiest path—sometimes it requires us to face hard truths or release things we’ve clung to for too long. But when we choose from love, we’re choosing possibility, connection, and a deeper alignment with our true selves.


So how do we make the shift from fear to love?


1. Identify Fear’s Voice: Fear often feels urgent, loud, and limiting. When making a decision, ask yourself, “Is this choice driven by a need to protect myself from a perceived threat?”


2. Pause and Breathe: Slowing down interrupts fear’s grip. Take a few deep breaths, center yourself, and reconnect to the present moment.


3. Ask What Love Would Do: Imagine what your choice would look like if you trusted yourself fully. Love-based decisions often feel expansive, even if they’re uncomfortable.


4. Cultivate Self-Compassion: Shifting from fear to love is a practice. It’s okay to stumble. When we meet ourselves with kindness, we’re more likely to choose love, again and again.


By choosing love over fear, we create a life that reflects our deepest values and desires. We’re not just surviving; we’re thriving, stepping into our authentic selves with each choice we make.


10 views0 comments

Recent Posts

See All

Comments


Contact Us

Yellow Flowers

Feel free to contact us with any questions.

Thanks for submitting!

River Bend Counseling

3225 Templeton Gap Rd

Colorado Springs, 80917

719-581-3126

© 2019 River Bend Counseling. Proudly created with Wix.com

bottom of page